You know what it’s like…
It’s the beginning of a brand new year and you’re super excited to follow through on your resolutions. This year it’s all going to be different!
Then February strikes and you’ve already returned to your old habits.
Well the truth is, you’re not alone. Studies have shown that 78% of individuals who set New Years Resolutions don’t realise their objective.
If you’re one of those people who tries year after year to reach your goals, but you still find yourself coming unstuck, then this article is for you.
So what is it going to take to really attain the goals you’ve set for this year?
First things first, the reason you’re not getting what you want is because you’re not setting the right goals.
Many of us set goals that aren’t really our own. We’re influenced by external factors and people, and that skews our judgement. So the reason you keep returning to the same goals each year, is probably because they’re not actually your goals.
You might be familiar with the term S.M.A.R.T. goals. It’s the technique of setting Specific, Measurable, Achievable, Realistic, Time-bound goals. We’re taught it in school, and it translates through to most careers as well.
However, there’s a major problem with these types of goals, they’re missing the right side of our brain. These types of goals are logical and rational, and therefore only feed the left side of our brain. But think about where all the magic happens, where there’s creativity and visualisation. We need to get the right side of our brains involved in goal setting if we really want to make things happen.
Think about when you’re happiest in life. It’s usually when you’re excited about something. Research has shown that when we’re looking forward to something, it can boost our endorphin levels by 27%.
Read on to learn the keys to setting goals you’ll actually achieve…
- Only set a goal if you strongly believe in it.
Your goals should be aligned with your vision and what you value most in life. You may be tempted to set goals because of other people’s expectations or because you believe you need to change.
But unless you actually have a strong reason for WHY you want to achieve a particular goal, it will mean nothing to you, and even though you might be telling yourself you want it, deep down you won’t have the motivation to go after it.
For example: You might set yourself a goal to lose 10kg, but knowing you hate exercise this can be difficult to achieve. So you need to think about why you want to lose 10kg. If you want to lose 10kg so you can fit into your wedding dress and feel good about yourself then that’s going to be a lot more motivating than just setting a goal for no reason.
- Ask yourself the right questions.
Setting the right goals starts with asking yourself the right questions. Think about what you actually want to feel from achieving this goal. It’s not enough to just write what you want.
You need to get clear and specific, actually think about why you want this thing you’re aiming for. How will it make you feel when you get it? What feeling would you really love to experience?
When you know the feeling you want to achieve then it’s much easier to bring that goal to life because you can start focusing on that feeling every single day.
You can even take this a step further and starting thinking about what you actually want your life to look like. Where will you live? Who is in your life? What do you do each day?
Get really specific and clear on exactly how you want your life to look. When you know this it’s so much easier to bring it to life.
- Write your goals down, then type them out
When you write your goals down you’re taking them from the metaphysical and formalising them into the physical.
Physically writing on paper also affects different neurological pathways so you are literally giving your goals life just by writing them down.
Once you write them down you should give it 3-4 weeks and then go to type them. What you’ll find when you do this exercise is you’ve normally achieved 25-50% of your handwritten goals by the time you go to type them.
When you do this exercise and see how many of your goals have come to life, this is kind of like a ‘seeing is believing’ exercise as it will solidify just how powerful you are.
You will realise you are able to give your life traction and this allows you to feel appreciative for everything you’ve achieved, and all that’s to come.
Another tip when writing your goals, is to do it in the present tense so you’re giving them certainty. In doing this, you know it’s going to happen because you’re telling your mind it’s already happened. So when you come from a state of being thankful and write as if it’s already occurred then the universe will provide.
- Make sure your goals are realistic
It’s good to set goals outside of your comfort zone, but when you’re just starting out it’s not so good to set them so extreme that they’re unachievable.
This will just make you emotional and desperate when things don’t go according to plan.
Example – don’t set a goal to become a millionaire this year, set a goal to get your finances in order. Money flows where there’s stability and the least amount of emotion so if you make a goal to get your finances in order, then you’re effectively making a goal to make it easier for you to achieve those crazy income dreams, but in a way that your brain can actually handle.
Your goals need to be out of your comfort zone but not so far out that you end up scapegoating the goal for being unattainable to you right now.
- Don’t ever stop
This may seem obvious, yet it’s something so few people actually do.
When the going gets tough, most people quit, hence the research showing such a large statistic of people who don’t achieve their New Year’s Resolutions.
If you find yourself facing failure of some sort, learn to embrace it and see the lesson within.
Instead of giving up, make a choice to remain consistent. Break your goals down into small actionable steps so the outcome doesn’t seem so unattainable.
The main difference between successful and unsuccessful people is the level of effort they put in. So it all comes down to how badly you want something. And if you’ve set your goals right, you’re going to want them so badly that nothing should be allowed to get in your way.
So keep going. You’ve got this!
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